Are you being hard on yourself?

May 2, 2017

Angels, I wanted to reach out today and let you know that it's OK if you're being hard on yourself. We all do it from time to time. It isn't about judging ourselves for our past 'mistakes', it's about learning what we can from each experience and resolving to have a different experience next time.

The best thing we can do is honor where we're at RIGHT NOW, TODAY. If you're feeling down, tired, overwhelmed or hell - even beyond happy, it's about saying, "I feel _______ today and I totally honor and own that!"

One of the biggest things we humans do is deny our feelings and emotions that come up. One day they just explode out of us and it 'surprises' everyone. I'm not sure why it's a surprise, because at some point, just like a volcano... the pressure will build and there will need to be a release.

Unfortunately, something that often accompanies this is a profound sense of guilt. One way to avoid the guilty feelings we experience by exploding on someone is to release pressure slowly instead of all at once. 

There are so many ways to do this! Exercise, massage, acupuncture, talking to a friend... anything that you would consider self care. It's putting yourself into a situation where you can take a deep breath and detach from your problems and the routine of life for a few minutes.

Also pay attention to your energy levels. Are you typically exhausted at the end of the day, or sooner? Notice how you're feeling after you interact with a certain individual, while you're at work, when you're talking with your spouse... pay attention to your feelings, your body, your energy. This is the first step to understanding what's draining you and what's energizing you.

I wanted to share this quick blog because pushing really hard and judging yourself in the process when things 'don't work out' isn't the answer. The answer is to keep doing what lights you up, not because you're getting something out of it, but because it makes you feel good. Sure, we all have bills to pay, and I completely know the reality of that situation. But, I think at some point we have to look at what makes us feel fulfilled as opposed to going through the motions and all it takes is small steps poised in the right direction to make a big impact.

If you've been hard on yourself lately, resolve to change this today! What will you be doing differently? Please share with me in the comments and share this blog with someone you care about that may need to hear this message.

Lots of Love,